Hi Naturalistas!!! Please check out my new video on how( http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ppPOW284xMc ) I prepare my hair to be washed, deep conditioned, and my twist out method! Enjoy Ladies!
Hi to all my fellow natural listas!!! Hope all is well with you ladies. I do apologize for not updating my site as regulary as I would like to. As of now I am in Law Enforcement Academy. I have been here for almost 6 weeks now and I have 6 more weeks to go!! I graduate on June 22, 2012. If you have any questions please feel free to message me or check out my youtube page and comment there!! I really miss you ladies hope all of you are enjoying this weather!!
Hi ladies! I know I’ve been MIA lately, but let me tell you, between my new business, my 9-5, and motherhood by the end of the day I am exhausted! So, what have I been doing with my hair you may ask? Can you say “PUFF” That’s right I have been wearing out “THE PUFF” I have no time to twist my hair much less maintain it to wear a nice twist out. Check out my video by clicking on How to Create a Quick, Easy Puff. Hope you ladies enjoy!!!
So, I was at work the other day and this random lady walks up to me and says “if you don’t mind me asking but why would you want to wear your hair like that when you can straighten it, I mean it looks good on you but don’t you ever want to just wear it real nice and straight?” Now yall know, my first thought was “What, in thee hell are you talking about and how do I know you?” Being that it was my first week at work I nicely replied “No, I like it better this way; it fits me” then she says “well if I were you I’d at least wear it straight for the holidays.” Ladies, I promise you, until that day I had never met this lady before in all of my life and already I was ready to school her on natural hair and beauty in the black community but I didn’t want to waste my precious time on this chick so I smiled and walked away.
That moment brought me to this question… “Why is natural hair in the black community still looked down upon?” Some women, AND MEN are so caught up in the European Standards of beauty, it disgust me! It saddens me that the hair our creator blessed us with is looked down upon and by our own people! It’s like saying “God, you made a mistake, but it’s ok, I have something to fix it with” silly right? Why is the ideal of beauty still characterized by European culture? Why are we our own worst enemy? While there are many answers to these questions the debate still exists.
Ladies, Black, of all shades, is beautiful & so is your curly, kinky, coily hair. We have an entire race of little girls that depend upon us to educate them about beauty, being a black woman, and loving themselves. Please, take time out to educate yourself so you can learn to love yourself and those around you…that is all.
Have you ever been out and about and you saw someone’s hair that made you look twice?
You either think one of two things, “What in the world?” or “Now that’s cute” right? lol Well luckily I have had the pleasure of others walking up to me with positive comments about my hair, not all the time, but I’ve had my moments. I guess it’s safe to say I receive the most compliments on days when I initially think my results are an absolute FAIL! You know those times when you’re like “ok, this is NOT gonna work” but then everywhere you go people keep telling you how good your hair looks? Yeah those moments..
So, since reaching my one year nappyversary I have turned to flat twist outs as my “go to style” not because it’s easy, but because people like them, my mom LOVES them, my husband says things like “your hair looks nice babe” when I wear them, AND (now this is the big one) they even make my sister entertain the thought of one day going natural!!! (HEY CELES!).
Because of such positive feedback I have taken time out to show you ladies how I turn my two strand flat twist into a superfly flat twist out!
I hope you ladies enjoy the video. Please remember to comment and subscribe! Much Love to you all!
As a new natural, things can get very confusing. There is a wealth of info out there, but looking for it and figuring out how to implement the plethora of knowledge into your regimen is a whole other ball game. Plus, it is hard to find the info that is inexpensive and easy to implement for a curly on a budget. So here is a compilation of all the things that I would have liked to know before going natural, as well as simple and cheap tips and tricks to help newbie naturalistas get started… Enjoy!!
There are two ways that you can embark on your journey, you can either:
Do The Big Chop (BC)
This involves cutting all the relaxed ends of the hair off and growing your hair out naturally.
Long or Short Transition
This process involves stopping the use of relaxers on your hair and allowing the hair to grown in naturally whilst trimming off the relaxed ends gradually. This method is preferred as it allows the transitioner to gain a sufficient length of hair that they are comfortable with and get to know their hair and how to care for it before taking the plunge.
Proper moisture is an integral part of caring for your natural hair. Because of the kinks in natural hair, it is very difficult for the natural oils of the hair to travel down the shaft and keep it pliable and moisturized. Thus, as a natural, it is imperative that you moisturize your hair and often. Here are some easy things that you can do to keep your hair moisturized:
- Use water; water is by far the best moisturizer known to man. In between a styling session, simply dampen the hair then seal in the moisture with a light oil (jojoba, grapeseed etc). A popular method of doing this is with the use of a spray bottle. Usually water, a light oil (jojoba, grapeseed, olive) and glycerin is combined and used as a style refresher or light moisturizer during the day.
(Distilled or boiled water should be used for mixes to ensure that a bacterium is not introduced to your mix. Also, to prevent the mixture from becoming a breeding ground for bacteria, mix small batches at a time. Lastly, a few drops of an essential oil like grapefruit seed extract or tea tree can act as a preservative for your mix.)
- Use a water based moisturizer; continuing with the water theme, any good manufacturer of a product will know that the best way to moisturize the hair is using water thus, any good moisturizers will contain water as the first ingredient. Having mentioned water based moisturizers, I should also explain that some moisturizers are oil or butter based. In and of themselves they are not moisturizing. The way they work is by trapping water near the hair shaft and softening as well. Thus, they should only be applied to damp hair or over a moisturizing leave in and never on their own.
- Another easy and inexpensive way to get your moisture on is by baggying. This method involves placing a shower cap on your head for an extended length of time (usually done whilst asleep). This helps to trap the moisture around the hair and create a slight steam effect. I swear by this method of moisturizing and have experienced whole days of moisture after one night of baggying.
(If you run out of shower caps or your hair is big and puffy and laughs at the small plastic shower caps, then grab a grocery bag. They work just as well as shower caps and are larger to accommodate more hair. Simply put it on your head and to secure it gather the excess around the rim twist and tuck under. Not only will this help you get rid of all the grocery bags lying around the house and make you feel less guilty about your environmental footprint, it is also cheap.)
If you neglect all else, please remember that failure to properly moisturize your hair will lead to tangles and breakage.
DEVELOPING A GOOD REGIMEN
It is critical that as a natural you develop a good regimen that you can stick to. Persistence is key.
Relaxers work by breaking the protein bonds in the hair that normally give the hair its kinky texture. Once those bonds have been broken to straighten the hair, it can become weak and brittle. As your new growth comes in stronger it is important to keep your relaxed ends healthy to prevent excessive breakage. The best way to do this is by deep treating the hair using protein treatments. Some inexpensive and well raved about protein treatments are Aubrey Organics Glycogen Protein Balancing Conditioner and Aphogee Protein Treatment. Also another inexpensive way to get more protein is by using Infusium products.
However a word of caution must be issued. Too much protein can cause the hair to become straw like and dry.
As a natural with kinks and coils, it is imperative that we take caution when detangling our hair as every bend in our hair is a site where it is susceptible to breakage. To avoid breakage simple steps can be taken. The two ways that naturals can detangle is wet or dry. Here is a break down of the best way to go about detangling either way.
When detangling dry it is important to note that the hair is less elastic then when wet thus, it is more likely to break when tugged on. Thus, the best way to approach this detangling session is in stages. The first stage should involve the loosening of the hair and gentle separating of any large knots with the use of ones fingers. This is called finger detangling. Then one should use a large toothed comb to further detangle and remove shed hairs. Lastly, one can follow up with a finer toothed detangling comb or brush to remove all shed hairs or for styling purposes.
Please note that it is recommended that you lubricate your hair with a light oil or water to aid in detangling dry hair.
When wet, the hair is more elastic and lubricated which is probably why it seems to be the favored method of detangling. While it is more likely to withstand tugging, it can easily be stretched and weakened in this state. This method is best executed when the hair is soaking wet and loaded with a conditioner with plenty of ‘slip’ for easy detangling. This method can be approached the same way as detangling whilst dry i.e. in stages.
Please note that hair should always be detangled from the tip to root, and NEVER the other way around. Also to prevent tangles, hair should be detangled in sections and twisted or plaited immediately after it has been washed to prevent it from re-tangling.
Neither way is right or wrong… be gentle no matter which method you employ.
Tips for purchasing detangling tools
When one sets out to purchase a detangling tool careful consideration must be placed on the item that will be purchased. Things to keep in mind are:
- Is the tool seamless? If it is not then it is highly likely that your strands could get caught in the tool and break off. This also applies to the little balls at the end of bristles on brushes. Ensure that the balls are seamless and not glued on.
- Are the teeth spaced too close together? If the teeth are closely spaced then depending on your hair texture it may be difficult for you to get your hair through the spaces.
As a new natural I looked forward to whipping up my own mixes at home. After being educated on the ingredients that were good for the hair, I took great pleasure in creating a product that I not only knew would be good, but that I knew exactly what was in it. Some easy products to whip up yourself cheaply and inexpensively are Deep Conditioners and Whipped Butters and here’s how.
The easiest way to create your own DC is by using a thick and creamy wash out conditioner as your base and adding ingredients to it. Things that you probably have at home that are good for your hair are oils (olive, coconut and castor) honey, mayo and eggs (for light protein), banana (puree well as banana can be a pain to rinse out), avocado etc. Simply mix it all up, apply it to your hair and wear a shower cap for no less than half an hour, then rinse. Please note that you cannot mix large quantities of your DC to use at a later date as it cannot be preserved.
Another fun and easy DIY hair product is whipped puddings. They are usually created with butter bases like shea, mango and or cocoa butter. Ingredients like various oils such as olive, jojoba, coconut and castor oil can be added. You can either melt the butter and oil then stir it as it hardens, or use a hand mixture to combine the ingredients. Some women also include aloe vera gel to create a pudding that can also be used as a styler. Simply mix small batches using various ratios of oils until you find your right mix.
Ingredients to look out for…
Look out for oils like grapeseed, olive oil, castor oil, coconut oil, vatika oil (a mixture of coconut oil and various Indian oils).
Also aloe vera gel can be used as a styling agent and helps to lower the pH of the hair to close the cuticles and give your hair more shine.
Things you should know…
During the transitioning process you will see breakage at the point where your natural hair meets your relaxed ends (referred to as the demarcation line). This area is very fragile, and while gentle handling and moisturizing treatments help, some breakage is inevitable.
Detangling time will increase as your natural hair comes forth. Natural hair being more textured than relaxed hair will obviously take more time to detangle. However, transitioners may have a higher detangling time as the point where the natural hair meets the relaxed ends is extremely fragile and thus to avoid breakage, extra caution must be taken.
Not everyone will like your decision…
As young naturals this is particularly hard to swallow. We are at a time in our lives when we are looking to be accepted by our peers. The last thing we want is to feel alienated and deemed ugly. However, sometimes we do not give others enough credit. There will be people who will find you going natural a powerful statement and admire your bravery for doing so at a time when straight hair is deemed the only beautiful. Also they may find your new look different and cute.
However, there will always be the naysayers in your life and all you can really do is try to educate them and keep it moving. Your healthy hair and growth will speak for itself. Also, think about it if you allow what others say to play a major role in your decision making, then it speaks volumes as to what the rest of your life will be like.
We all have a story right? Well most of us, on how we decided to what some may seem as joining the “natural hair band wagon” Let me tell you, I am so very thankful for the so-called “natural hair band wagon” because of this “trend” I have discovered something sooooo beautiful, so pure, so devine, ok, well maybe not that deep but I can truly say going natural has been one of the best decisions of my life. I have always wanted healthy hair. I can remember as a young girl being upset that I didn’t have “good hair” like my mother, crazy right?? All I wanted was long, sleek, shiny, hair. Well that was not the case, my hair was kinky and coily & b/c my mom only knew about the hot comb and relaxers to make it straight she opt for the good ole “Creamy Crack” hahahaha who came up with that name, “Creamy Crack” lol. Anyway, I don’t know at what age I received my first relaxer but it must have been very early in childhood because I can’t even think back to a time that I didn’t have a relaxer in my hair.
So fast forward, one day I’m looking at youtube videos and I come across a lady who shared her hair regimen and I thought WOW, I can do that but again she had a relaxer, so I began taking better care of my hair, sites like hairlista.com and youtube sensation Ateeya became my new best friends. So after about 2yrs of growing my hair from ear length to almost collar bone I thought how can I get it even healthier? After seeing a few pics of girls with natural hair on facebook the thought began to cross my mind of what would I look like if I were to go without the “creamy crack.” Well, first let me tell you I have never ever in my life, until that point, imagined EVER going without my 6-8wk relaxer; I was a faithful relaxer. But their hair looked healthy and that’s what I was aiming for. So, after consulting with my husband, my stylist at the time, my dad, my mom, my sister, my bestfriend, and whoever else that would listen I decided I wanted to go NATURAL.The journey had begun! THANK GOD FOR YOUTUBE!!! I swear I youtube all day and all night. I spent hrs upon hrs looking videos and I thought OMG this is so serious! I was also a bit relieved because at that moment I felt like I had all the support I needed. All the free advice, tutorials, everything!!
So, on October 1st, 2010 I did the unimaginable, without transitioning, without hesitation, I cut it all off. One word….LIBERATED. So here I am wanting to give back by inspiring those who have yet to be inspired, those who are considering going natural, and those who have already took the plunge of this new exciting life of being….NATURAL!!!